Revisiting Highschool

I am so sorry that it has been an little while since I blogged. Once getting home from the wedding, I was extremely tired. After a few days of rest, the bad news started coming in. First, I was told that my cheerleader sponsor from high school had died. I was so shocked but later found out she didn't really died until the next day. The next day, I received a phone call from one of my favorite high school buddy's and he informed me that Felisha (his cousin and our classmate) had lost her baby and needed prayers to get through it. I was very sadden by this and past the information on. This was the night before my baby sister's birthday and our Friday family night. We we ate sonic and had a sleep over as we got ready to celebrate her birthday on the cheap. I was so excited, we rented movies and ate junk food like little children. That morning we woke up and I fixed her a big breakfast while she received all her birthday wishes. Her phone continued to go off, and she suddenly go up and was eager to leave. I assume this was because she got a better offer. No, my friend Felisha has passed and she was told via test messaging and did not want to be the one to have to tell me. My family is a little weird like that. The whole family was hoping someone else would tell me because I usually don't react well to bad news. I have had a rough week and did not deal with parts of it very well.

The good thing that come from all of it is I got to revisit some of yesterday's memories.

here comes the newlyweds finale

Wedding Weekend

I am attaching a few pictures from the wedding and a video. All the hardwork and tears paid off and as usual it was the wedding of our dreams. I know everyone has the best mother ever but I really do. She has taught me through example how to scarifice things in order to make your children happy. Here are the pictures and video that made yesterday's memories.


the kids and I about to leave the house.


The ladies


my brother and I with our Breannas ( Breanna Kathleen and Erin Breanna)



Grady, Momma and Mo


Dorothy's Kids (me(Shunda), Jetta, KetaMonique and Boris)

the whole wedding party

KetaMonique (I love them to death)

My beautiful little flower girl. She made me so proud.

Taurean wrote a song that his best man sang to Mo.

growing up

Tonight I decided to change the tone a little bit. Instead of just blogging about yesterday (July 08, 2009) I will talk about the past.
As you may have realized by now I am a little crazy when it comes to my family especially my girls. Tomorrow we begin a hard felt task of sharing our Moe with her new family. (I wonder since tomorrow is the rehearsal, do I practice my cry)
I can't wait until Jetta, Keekee and Boris get here. We will all be home like when we were young. I wonder if we can re-enact some memories. Maybe everyone gather up their change and send Boris to the store. Let Jetta put my hair in a braid and ponytail. Give Keekee a little debbie cake and how long it lasts.
Maybe we can start something new since we now have children. Maybe game night. I got to get plenty of pictures because thats what makes yesterday's memories.

She's a big girl now.

Yesterday, my family assisted my sister in moving into her new home. The one she will share with her soon to be new husband. This is not her first place but I am so filled with emotions now. She has completed undergrad, a master's program and almost finished with her specialist degree. She left home to attend underbgrad and got her first apartment during grad school. She has dated her fiancee for a few years now. So none of this is new but it does feel this way.

I remember her being a tomboy with glasses and polo shirts. Now she is a diva in heels and dresses. I remember her head being tilted and having crossed eyes on family pictures. She now wears makeup, diamond rings and holds her head up high. We talk everyday and if we don't then something must be wrong. Now she is getting married. She will have a husband, a family home, and begin a new life. We have to share her with her new family. We will have new memories (hoping of pregnancy and many babies being born) but the best thing of all is I will still have yesterday's memories of the times when it was just us.

van full

For as long as I can remember I have wanted a large family. I am not sure if its because my mother asked us for 5 grandchildren each or because she wanted to have six children or because I enjoy having my sisters and brother.

This weekend I had my three nephews. I was an enjoyable experience. However, after a few days I was so tired and ready to return to sender. I had a total of 6 children ages 12, 6, 5, 4, 3, and 4 months. It gave me a whole new appreciation for being the mother of three and I see why parents of multiples have issues. It is stressful. Boys and girls are so different and putting them all together was trouble. I notice how they tend to stick with their sibling but if anyone from outside the immediate family try to step in they pull together quickly.

I only wish that they could all grow up closer together because nothing makes a memory better than family.

What do you really mean?

This quarter in bible class, I am studying about communication and relationships. Recently we were discussing intentions and how they effect communication. For example: Bryan made a statement that his coworker was the only person that he could count on. The its all about me part of me wanted to angrily remind him of all the things and times that I have been there for him. How do you think that would have gone. Luckily for once, I was slow to speak and he continued by saying that it feels like most of his coworkers are not very supportive or helpful.

Here is a copy of our weekly email that Amanda sends out, hope you enjoy and learn from it.
Hope you are having a great week. As we continue our study of wisdom and how that applies to handling the conflict in our lives, below are a few verses for thought. People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness. Prov. 14:29Short-tempered people do foolish things, and schemers are hated. Prov. 14:17Whoever loves a pure heart and gracious speech will have the king for a friend. Prov. 22:11Patience can persuade a prince and soft words can break bones. Prov. 15:15. As a reminder from Sunday’s class – remember to separate the intentions from the consequences. Don’t assume you understand the intentions of the other person. If someone is making judgments about your intentions, set aside the defensiveness for a minute and deal with their hurt feelings. If you find yourself saying things like “You shouldn't feel that way.”, “Don’t be ridiculous.”, “That doesn’t make any sense.”, “That isn’t logical.” – then be aware that you are making the situation worse by NOT listening and are insulting them at the same time. Once you deal with the existing feelings, then go back and explain your intentions. If the conversation occurs in THAT order, you have communication love and respect by caring about their feelings and clarified your own intentions which should clear up the misunderstanding. HOWEVER, be aware that you may have several reasons for taking any particular action – and not all of them noble. Be able to face ALL the truth your own actions. “I was only joking!” Hmmmmmm, really? Are you SURE that no part of the joke had any merit to it at all? Nothing about that joke is true in your eyes? I’m not buying it and neither will anybody else. This Sunday, we will talk about blame and contribution as we continue our study on Proverbs and conflict.

Yesterday's Memories

What really happened to yesterday? What happened to

• respectful children
• parents the were in charge of the household
• getting the evil eye in church and behaving
• being afraid to misbehave
• wanting to play outside until you passed out

Today children are so disrepectful, and only want to play video games, eat what the want and be waiting on hand and feet by adults. I fear that we are wanting to give our so much more than we had and forgetting to give them what we had.
We need to instill in our children the importance of family, a sense of responsiblity, and most importantly to have faith in God.